My last post was ages ago. I haven’t posted anything at all in April, which is a shame because April is the most beautiful month of them all.
What do I have on my mind?
The C word: C U Next Tuesday. I am fascinated by words; the way random letters are put together and infused with meanings. The way we make certain words “bad words” and some words must not even be said at all. The C word is deemed the most offensive word in the English. The first time I ever came across the word, it was described as the worst thing you could call a woman. I have never called anyone the C word, and I even cringed when Nicki Minaj referred to herself by that word in one of her raps. Recently I have been wondering how this word came to be more offensive. The word means female genitals, so how did it attain its Voldemort it-which-must-not-be-said status? How is it worse that a woman being called a female dog? It is just strange to me how a bunch of letters are put together to form words, and how we make some offensive; even stranger is how we allow completely innocuous words to develop a negative identity to the point where they cannot be uttered anymore and their original meanings are discarded.
The Snapback Epidemic: Growing up, women who had given birth were no expected to be svelte sexy hotcakes. I got older and realised women could infact remain svelte after having children but still didn’t put a timeframe on losing weight. Fast forward to 2016, and we are in the age of the snapback, of the yummy mummy of the hashtag 2 days postpartum. Now women push a living being out of their vaginas and before the placenta is out hop in front of a mirror to take a picture to share with the internet. The internet responds with glee: “omigosh goalsssss!” The term frame for this big reveal has exponentially gotten smaller as time has gone on; from one year PP to 6 months to 3 months to one week to 2 days to watch my body literally snapback in slow motion as I push my baby out. It must be wonderful to “get your body back” after such an arduous process.I understand it is difficult to adjust to your new body. The pressure must be intense , and I just hope that women don’t feel that they have to snapback within a few days, Some women will be fortunate enough to be rocking a six pack 2 days postpartum, some will not. Just enjoy your new baby and focus on healing.
Oh by the way, can we stop turning everything into goals? Relationship goals, baby goals. Pregnancy goals. Labour goals. Hair goals. Skin goals. face goals. armpit goals. Fart goals. Just stop it.