Pretty Hurts

I love beauty in all forms- in art, in nature, and of course in people. As revered as beauty is, it is also often denigrated as lacking in substance. I wrote a post about this a while back. Recently I came across a similar sentiment in Gail Honeyman’s debut novel Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine, and I liked it so much I decided to post it here.

“I feel sorry for beautiful people. Beauty, from the moment you possess it, is already slipping away, ephemeral. That must be difficult. Always having to prove that there’s more to you, wanting people to see beneath the surface, to be loved for yourself, and not your stunning body, sparkling eyes or thick, lustrous hair. In most professions, getting older means getting better at your job, earning respect because of your seniority and experience. If your job depends on your looks, the opposite is true—how depressing. Suffering other people’s unkindness must be difficult too; all those bitter, less attractive people, jealous and resentful of your beauty. That’s incredibly unfair of them. After all, beautiful people didn’t ask to be born that way. It’s as unfair to dislike someone because they’re attractive as it is to dislike someone because of a deformity.”

I was also reminded of this fabulous headline I saw last year about the newly crowned Miss South Africa; “I had to come to terms with being so beautiful“. I remember laughing when I saw it, like “okay girl, you speak your truth hunnaaay“. To be honest, at first I thought it was a joke, a silly tabloid headline until I read her own words. I’m sure a lot of people saw that and rolled their eyes thinking “Why the f**k is she whining about being beautiful blah blah”. Not that I can relate to this, but I do think her experiences are valid, and they cannot just be looked down upon because we think it’s ridiculous aka cannot relate.

Another time I came across a Youtube Video featuring the British singer Jorja Smith, and one of the comments were something to the effect of “She needs to be held accountable for her beauty.” Huh what?

I do believe that a lot people try to exorcise their insecurities through these seemingly innocuous attacks on conventionally attractive people. Of course there is the flip side where attractive people automatically get opportunities on the strength of their looks, but that’s not the point here. What is the point? Dunno. I just wanted to share a quote I liked.

Spare a thought for the beautiful will you? 🙂

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